A craftsman masters his trade by repeated practice, with care and continual learning, and with devotion to the purpose.

It takes the same kinds of things to master the craft of self-discipline:
  • Repeated practice
  • Single-minded devotion to the purpose
  • Continual learning
  • Care
Here are 8 practices to help you apply a little more self-discipline in your life — and to reap the rewards.

Number 1Do the task even when you’re not in the mood.

Procrastination is such a common problem that I believe it to be universal. The main reason we procrastinate (though we don’t admit it it to ourselves) is, “I’m not in the mood to do this.”

8 ways to master self-disciplineThe task is probably difficult or confusing or will take a long time, and so it’s uncomfortable… and you’d rather go to things that are easier — that you’re good at. You’d rather clean your house or trim your nails or check your email than start writing the next chapter of your book. But if we all wait until we’re in the mood, we’ll never master life.

Instead, practice this: Set yourself to do a task, and start doing it, no matter what. Don’t let yourself check social media, clean something, or do a quick chore or errand.

Sit down, and do it.

It will be uncomfortable… but you can still do it even if it’s uncomfortable.

Number 2Stick to a habit.

One of the hardest things people face with changing a habit is sticking with a habit after their initial enthusiasm dies down. It’s easy to do a habit for a week — but what about pushing through the second and third weeks? It gets a lot easier after those weeks, but a lot of people drop the habit too early.

Instead, do this: Commit to one small habit for two months. Make it just 5 minutes a day, and do it at the same time each day, having as many reminders set up as possible so you don’t forget. Track the habit on a calendar or log, so you see your progress. Show up every day and do it. You’ll start to master the formation of new habits, which will open up all kinds of changes.

Number 3Exercise even when you really don’t want to.

Yes, this is the same thing as procrastinating — we put off exercise for many reasons, usually because it’s hard, and we’d rather do something easier.

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But I look at it as something I need to do to take care of myself, like eating healthy food and brushing my teeth. You wouldn’t skip brushing your teeth for a week, would you? Your teeth would soon rot. Similarly, skipping exercise for a week rots your body.

Instead, practice this: Tell yourself you’re going to do a workout or run at a certain time, and then show up. Do it even if you’re tired or feeling lazy. Ignore the lazy feeling, the distractedness, and suck it up. You’ll find that you feel great for having done it, and you will soon begin to master doing things that are uncomfortable.

Number 4Sit with a little hunger.

We tend to panic when we get hungry, and run for the nearest junk food. What I’ve learned is that you can be hungry and it’s not the end of the world. We don’t always need to be stuffed and satisfied with crazy delicious food.

Instead, practice this: Don’t eat if you’re not hungry. When you start to feel hungry, sit there for a moment and turn to the hunger, and see how it really feels. It’s not so bad. This practice isn’t to make you starve yourself (not great), but to show you that a little discomfort won’t ruin your life, and that you can make conscious choices about when and how much to eat.

Number 5Talk to someone about something uncomfortable.

We avoid difficult conversations, because they’re not fun. They’re scary, uncomfortable. But that leads to all kinds of problems, including resentment, a worse relationship, worsening of the situation, and more.

Instead, practice this: When you have a problem with someone, instead of replaying the problem in your head, talk to the person in a gentle, compassionate way. Try to see the situation from their point of view, not just yours. Bring it up with a simple, “Hey, can we talk about ___?” And tell them how you feel, without accusing them or making them feel defensive. Ask them how they feel about it.

Approach it with the attitude of finding a solution that works for both of you, that preserves your relationship. What you learn from this is that pushing through this uncomfortable situation will resolve a lot of difficult problems.

Number 6Turn toward the problem.

When we have a problem, often we avoid even thinking about it. Think about whether you have one of these problems: you have been avoiding exercise, you’re overweight, you’ve been avoiding a major project, you put off dealing with your finances, you’re unhappy about some situation in your life. Often these are uncomfortable situations, and we’d rather not face them.

Instead, practice this: See the obstacle as the path. Don’t avoid the obstacle (the difficult situation, the problem you fear), don’t go around it, don’t ignore it. Turn toward it. See it. Acknowledge it. Figure out what’s going on. Find out how to navigate within the problem. You’ll find that it’s not easy, but not as bad as you thought, and you’ll be happy you did it. And more importantly: you’ll get stronger from facing the problem.

Number 7See the good in the activity itself.

Discipline is really learning that you don’t need some incredible reward — there’s inherent good in just doing the activity.

For example, if you’re going to eat healthy food, you don’t need to make it taste like your favorite dessert or fried food (rewarding food) — you can just enjoy the activity of eating fresh, healthy food. If you’re going to exercise, it doesn’t need to give you a flat stomach or nice arms — you can just enjoy the activity.

Practice this: No matter what the activity, find the good in doing it, and the activity becomes the reward.

Number 8Meditate.

People think meditation is difficult or mystical, but it’s fairly simple.

Practice this: Take two minutes to sit still, and focus on your breath, noticing when your mind wanders and gently returning to the breath.

There are lots of other ways to meditate, but this is the simplest, and it shows you how to watch the urges that come up, and to see that you don’t need to act on those urges.

Practice to perfect self-discipline

You might not be good at these at first, but that’s why you practice.

You’ll learn, through these practices, to get good at discomfort, to show up even when you don’t feel like it, to stick to something even when the enthusiasm wanes, to not act on your urges right away, to enjoy any activity as a reward in and of itself.

Does life need to be pure discipline and no fun? Of course not. But if you can enjoy any activity, in the moment, why not learn to master something that will pay off for you in the long run?


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