Helicopter parents can get too involved in kids’ homework
Parents who take the overparenting approach, known as helicopter parenting, are possibly hindering their child’s development by becoming too heavily involved in homework.
Helicopter parents take an extreme approach to homework
A Queensland University of Technology (Australia) study involving 866 parents from three Brisbane Catholic/independent schools found those who endorse overparenting beliefs tend to take more responsibility for their child doing their homework — and also expect their child’s teachers to take more responsibility for it.
“There is concern this greater parental involvement in ensuring homework is completed, particularly in high school, is actually impacting the child’s ability to take responsibility for their homework or understand the consequences of their actions,” says QUT Clinical Psychologist Dr Judith Locke. “The irony is a helicopter parenting style with the goal of fostering academic achievement could be undermining the development of independent and resilient performance in their children.”
“Parental involvement is a child’s school experience is considered an important factor in their academic success and homework is a key aspect of that. However, it seems some parents may take the notion too far and continue to assist children at an age the child should be taking most of the responsibility for their academic work, such as the [high] school years,” says Locke.
“These parents appear to not only help their child more, they also expect their child’s teachers to help them more, particularly in the middle school and senior school years.”
According to Locke, parental assistance with homework should slowly reduce as a child gets older, and daily parental involvement in an adolescent’s homework “would be developmentally inappropriate.”
“We know from recent research, that there may be a point where parental assistance ceases to be beneficial, especially as children reach adolescence and young adulthood, and can result in poor resilience, entitlement and reduced sense of responsibility.”
Depression and other detriments
Dr Locke said studies in America which reported on parental over-involvement in a student’s university life found it to be extremely detrimental.
“Some parents choose their adult child’s subjects, edit or complete their assignments and badger lecturers to improve their child’s grades,” Dr Locke said.
“When these parents are making these decisions or providing academic pressure, it has been found the adult student disengages from their education, and often has increased depression and decreased satisfaction with life.
“Parental help can be constructive by showing interest and coaching them to complete their work, but unconstructive assistance includes telling a child the right answer or taking over from them when they are completing school tasks,” Dr Locke says.
“Those who scored highly on the LPS measure in our study may have been reacting to greater academic difficulties of their child and without an objective measure of the child’s academic skills we cannot rule that out,” Locke notes. “However, this study is one of the first to indicate that overparenting may result in parenting actions and expectations of their child’s school which may not enable children to fully develop academic responsibility and self-regulation skills.”