But there is another way. Allow me to share this way with you today.
The fallacy of what you’re not doing
I think we have an idea that in an alternate universe, there’s a version of ourselves that could be living a more amazing life. That is perfectly productive (no procrastination!), that doesn’t get distracted, that hits all kinds of goals.
At the same time, this person is also traveling, having amazing experiences, living the life with great friends and a wonderful partner. This person is learning all kinds of skills, reading, learning about fascinating topics. With a great body, of course.
This alternate self, of course, doesn’t exist, and never will.
All we have is this plain ol’ regular self. We’re stuck with it.
So we should make the best of what we have. Take a look at the current-reality self and say, “Hey, you’re okay. You’re pretty awesome in some ways. In other ways you’re flawed. That’s how all Earthlings are, actually. In any case, you’re good enough. Oh, and btw, I love you.”
There’s no perfect version of your life, of you. There’s no perfect thing you should be doing now, no perfect sequence of things you should be doing today.
There’s just what is at this moment… including your dissatisfaction with this moment and yourself (and other people). This dissatisfaction is part of the moment you’re stuck with.